By applying ourselves to develop these qualities, we increase and refine the consciousness of ourselves. Becoming more and more aware of what is happening in us and around us is another way of naming spiritual development. It is taking a step back, having a broader view and distinguishing the real forces behind the appearances of the games of life. Consciousness is the key to our evolution.
Often we are led to think that we are the toy of uncontrollable external forces and that our sufferings and difficulties are caused by unfortunate chance or by others. They do not bring us the attention that we ask them, encroach on our territory, we are victims of a natural disaster or the economic crisis (see Natural article disasters, the real causes). Increased awareness reveals that we are responsible for our lives. Understanding that we are the actors in our lives is a critical step in our spiritual evolution. This is perhaps the most difficult to understand and to integrate because this notion is not part of our standard
The difficulties we are experiencing are the expression of the unsolved aspects of us that need to be appeased and healed. To be responsible for our life is to ask ourselves what these difficulties want us to understand. What message does our Essence seek to communicate with us? Our regeneration and transformation depend on us. By experimenting and understanding this law of functioning, we become masters of our life: we are no longer victims, but creators.
Look at yourself with tenderness
Becoming a lucid observer of oneself and looking at our qualities and shadows does not mean that we have to account for our flaws and imperfections and feel ashamed or guilty. This attitude would only help to maintain other shady areas, such as shame and guilt. In connection with his inner being, the observer behaves as an attentive parent development of his child, mixing kindness and rigor. We observe each other with the tender look of a mother who watches her child take her first steps, stumble, fall, hold on, get up, and so on. What arouses this tenderness? It is to see in the child his progress, his learning, his growth, his good will, his patience, his courage.
To observe ourselves as a child means to do it without judgment, with tenderness, but without complacency, including when we are angry or sad. To pour on oneself benevolence and compassion is an excellent practice for the healing of our soul and the opening to the Self.